Where is my sleep?

Now, I know what your thinking "Please not another whingy blog post from a parent with self inflicted sleep deprivation!"

Yes, yes it is... But not a whinge as such, more of a plea. Jacob does not sleep very well, well, being the biggest, crappiest, most exhausting understatement in the whole wide world. He laughs in my face at bedtime, bath done, jimjams on, dodgy side parting from combing his hair, book read, milk drank. laughs. HAHAHAAAHA. FUNNY. *NOT*
We have always had a good routine for him, he sleeps relatively well during the day and will nap in his cot or in his pram quite happily if we're out and about, but as soon as night time comes it's like sleep just doesn't enter his brain. Last night he woke from 1.30am until 4am bringing Mike and I to our wits end with exhaustion. Without being dramatic, it is ruining our relationship, it causes us to argue and bicker and snap at each other plus the fact that we never ever get any time alone together because Jacob is always in our bed, this may say more about our relationship than Jacob's behaviour but right now I feel it is the sleep deprivation causing it. I hate the thought of blaming my child for anything, let alone this, so I know that its us, we as his parents that need to own up, take responsibility and tackle this now.
  On a small, unsufficient amount of sleep Jacob is a monster. He screams, yells, kicks, and whinges all         day       long, until I'm on the verge of texting Mike and begging him to come home from work early, just so I can lock myself in the bathroom with a bottle of wine and some earplugs.

I need help and fast, I need a solution because today I have almost reached the end of my limit. We have been in Australia for 3 weeks now and I miss my sisters, my mum and my dog, I'm getting homesick and lonely and I really do not need to be exhausted amongst everything else. Luckily, Mike's parents are going away for 3 weeks very soon so we are going to try and tackle the problem with some controlled crying ish tactics (I will go in to his bedroom, but I will lay him back down, give him back his dummy (which normally gets flung across the room) and then leave) I'm totally aware this is going to be all night screaming for around a week but I'm ready. If Jacob doesnt learn to sleep properly now when will he?

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If anybody has any tips at all I shall forever be in your debt?!

Ps, This homesick lark has been great for the blogs, writing posts almost daily!